The decision of whether or not to change a child’s name after adoption is a deeply personal one, often filled with complex emotions and considerations. While some families may feel that an adoption name change is necessary to establish a new identity and sense of belonging, others may prefer to maintain the child’s birth name as a way to honor their biological heritage.
Emotional factors
The child’s age and developmental stage can play a significant role. Younger children may be more adaptable to a name change, while older children may have strong attachments to their birth name. A new name may be confusing for a toddler who has learned her name but doesn’t yet understand the concept of naming.
The child’s relationship with their birth parents and other family members can also influence their feelings about a name change. If the child has a strong connection to their birth family, they may be hesitant to change their name. It is possible that the birth mom may have strong feelings about having input in the name of a an infant. This does not create a legal obligation for the adoptive parents, but it can add an extra layer of emotion.
The cultural and social context in which the child is raised can also be a factor. In some cultures, name changes may be more common or accepted than in others.
Practical factors
An Iowa family that adopted a child born in South Dakota changed her name but they were not issued a new birth certificate. The child’s disability coverage was threatened. Kids may also have problems with registering for school, getting a passport, or taking care of other bureaucratic tasks.
In Arkansas, an adopted child is issued a new birth certificate listing the adoptive parents and the child’s new name, if it is changed. The original birth certificate is sealed and filed. It’s important to make sure this step is completed correctly to avoid problems down the road.
Choosing a name
For families who decide to change a child’s name, it is important to carefully consider the new name. The name should be meaningful and reflect the child’s identity and personality. It is also important to involve the child in the decision-making process, especially if they are older. By allowing the child to have a say in their new name, parents can help them feel more empowered and connected to their new identity.
Having the same last name as the rest of the adoptive family can create a greater sense of belonging. This can be the case with stepparent adoption as well as infant adoption. Some families change a first or last name and maintain the birth name(s) as a middle name.
Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to change a child’s name is a personal one that should be made with careful consideration. By weighing the potential benefits and drawbacks, families can make an informed decision that is best for their child and their family. It is important to remember that there is no right or wrong answer, and the most important thing is to create a loving and supportive environment for the child.