Research shows that about half of Americans feel that their heritage and ethnic background are important factors in their personal sense of identity. Whether they are proud to be American or proud of their Korean heritage, identify strongly with their great-grandparents’ German roots, or think of themselves as Mexican-American, geographic heritage matters. Because of this emotional connection, honoring your adopted child’s heritage is a beautiful and important way to show respect for their background and help them develop a strong sense of identity.
If your adopted child has a different background from yours
You can start by learning about their cultural background. You and your child can learn together — you don’t have to be an expert. Research the history, traditions, values, and social norms of your child’s birth country or ethnic group. Read books, watch documentaries, and explore websites created by people from your child’s culture.
Help them connect with the community. If possible, find and engage with individuals or families from your child’s culture. This can provide valuable insights and support. It can also give your child people who can answer questions for them when you cannot. Many communities have cultural festivals, traditional dance, music, or language classes, and other events and activities designed to introduce their culture to the larger community.
Incorporate culture into daily life
Just as you probably cook food from your forebearers’ home countries, you can introduce traditional foods from your child’s culture into your family’s meals. Explore local ethnic restaurants and try new recipes together.
Learn some basic phrases in your child’s birth language. Fill your home with music and art from your child’s culture. Visit museums and galleries that showcase their heritage. Read books and stories from your child’s culture as well as your own. This can help them feel connected to their roots and show respect for their heritage.
Learn about the holidays and celebrations of your child’s ancestors. Many American households have a mixture of Christmas traditions, for example, with tamales on Christmas Eve and Christmas stockings hanging by the chimney. Research the roots of your holiday customs, add touches from your child’s heritage, and discuss the reasons for all your traditions.
Create a supportive environment
Encourage open communication about your child’s adoption story and their ethnic heritage. Be prepared to answer their questions honestly and sensitively. This approach will help your child develop a positive sense of their identity. Celebrate their unique background and emphasize the value of their heritage. Of course, use respectful and inclusive language when discussing your child’s ethnicity. Avoid stereotypes and generalizations.
Most Americans have complex heritage; few of us nowadays could accurately say that we are Irish or Mayan. If you explore your family tree, chances are good that there are many countries and perhaps several continents represented there. Add your spouse’s heritage and your family already has a rich and diverse heritage. Your adopted child may have an equally complex heritage. Embrace your adopted child’s culture as another thread in your family’s wonderful tapestry — that’s one of the strengths of America.
Heimer Law is prepared to offer support throughout your adoption journey. Contact us today for a free consultation.
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