One of the questions expectant mother may have when considering adoption is, “Can my parents stop me from choosing adoption for my baby?” This question has an easy legal answer. Only the birth parent has the right to make this decision. Even if she is a minor, a birth mother’s parents do not have a legal right to input on the question of adoption.
Not that easy
In the real world, we know that disapproving parents can have a lot of influence. Grandparents may find it hard to accept the idea of their grandchild becoming a member of another family. They may have a hard time accepting that they will not be part of the child’s life. These feelings can lead to stress and even conflict.
It’s important to know that your parents do not have any legal right to make this decision. The decision is entirely up to you.
They might be able to understand your reasons for making this choice if you can discuss the question with them. Talking with Heimer Law or other adoption professionals, with a therapist, or with a birth mothers’ support group can help you get your thoughts in order so you can express them clearly. Understanding that you are making a selfless and loving decision may help them.
An open adoption
One possibility to consider is to choose an open adoption. Biological grandparents cannot have visitation rights or indeed any legal connection with an adopted child, but if you choose to have contact, you can share updates on the child with your parents.
However, it should be made clear to the birth mother’s parents that they do not have any legal rights in this situation, or any legal relationship with the child after adoption.
It’s essential to remember that the decision to place a child for adoption is a deeply personal one. A birth mother should feel empowered to make this choice without undue influence or pressure. If your parents are able to be supportive, that will be the best outcome. If not, you must still make the choice that is best for you and your child.
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